Leadership is not about commanding others to bend to our will. As we manage the ebbs and flows of our businesses daily this inescapable fact remains true. Leadership is about Engaging and Connecting with our teams. We certainly want results, and we want our goals to be attainable and achievable but at what cost? When do we stop looking towards others to create our version of success through their hard work and sacrifice?
Connecting and Engaging are similar and worth exploring and understanding.
verb (used with object)
to join, link, or fasten together; unite or bind:
verb (used with object)
to secure for aid, employment, use, etc.; hire: to engage a worker; to engage a room.
to bind, as by pledge, promise, contract, or oath; make liable: He engaged himself to repay his debt within a month.
As Managers, we join, unite, and fasten our teams together through securing aid and binding our teams together through unified mutual purpose.
As leaders, we are asked to impact the lives of those underneath us and sometimes impart value to those above us. Through Engaging and Connecting we are easily capable of accomplishing this. But we miss the point as we get bogged down by our many tasks, checklists, and often by our own limitations and excuses.
Here are a few examples:
I don't have enough time
If only my boss taught me more
Well, that environment didn't happen for me so why waste my time creating it now?
By finding a Coach or Mentor to help you work through this is paramount. Most entry-level managers are not humble enough to look toward outside assistance and expect their companies to drive all of their development. The truth is our performance and knowledge base is our personal choice.
Furthermore, Engaging and Connecting are not just something that we do for others. Rather, these can accomplish more than we give credit. When applied to our personal growth and development through reading books, listening to podcasts, audiobooks, or even going to seminars these help us engage in powerful self-development.
We often miss managing our own thoughts and ideas even if we know that this is key to being a better leader every day. If we can't manage ourselves and our development, why should we place our companies in a light that we can't even do ourselves? With the amount of easily accessible information out there, this is easily attainable.
As we work towards better Engaging and Connecting with those we encounter, we need to also keep in mind we can only grow forward when we are consistently engaging and connecting with our own thoughts and ideas. We will only break through our own deficiencies and stop allowing others to make us successful when we take a personal stance in creating our OWN success. The value we can add and give to others is in our control, and we should never look towards a system to make us and mold us into the better person we want to become before we take a hard look in the mirror and make those conscious steps ourselves.